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Decision Making Skills

Do your kids have excellent decision-making skills?  I don’t mean, do you think they can decide things.  I mean have to deliberately sit with them and helped them with several processes of making a decision.  This process might look like sitting down as a family and including your kids in decisions that affect them.  Give them a chance to talk, help them to make their case, to refine their argument for something.  Listen respectfully and consider their decisions and opinions when you’re making the decision.  Can you model ethical decision-making for your kids?  Share with them a decision or situation that you have in your work that requires a decision and help them see how you took it apart in favor of the right choice.  Weighing consequences of pros and cons, then once a decision is made, sticking to it.

I believe it is also important to point out that making a decision does not mean to put it off or not to decide.  Kids need to understand that when they do that, it gives someone else the power to decide for you.  When I was young, I had a difficult time making a decision.  I don’t believe that I understood the importance of just making a decision, that in many cases, it wasn’t life or death.  For example, I am choosing what to eat at a restaurant.  It is an easy decision, and often whatever we want will be pleasing to eat.  It is essential to point out that making a mistake is also okay.  Help your kids to learn from it and to move on.  Do not protect them from the consequences of poor decisions.

If you can encourage your kids to journal, help them to write about some of their decisions and how they turned out.  Sit with your kids today and talk with them about making various decisions and help them to learn a process that you use in making decisions.  Decision-making skills is a life skill that will serve your kids for all of their days.

Yours for Better Parenting,