Dr. Rich Patterson

Rich Patterson, Ph.D.  www.pattersonphd.com


When a pilot is approaching a runway to land a plane, he/she receives feedback from the control tower telling them which runway to land on and a bit about the weather, maybe something about wind shear and the like.  It is critical information and the pilot would have a much more difficult time landing the plane without that critical information.  We all receive feedback in our lives but often we just don’t pay attention enough to it to make those changes.

This feedback can be information you observe about your environment–school, home life, family, parents, step-parents, grandparents, or foster parents, or it can be in the form of feedback, information, or criticism you receive from adult sources, such as family, school, friends–things you notice repeating on a consistent basis.  For example, if your friends notice that you tend to kid around and joke in a manner that makes them angry, then the feedback for you might be that this is something you need to improve about yourself.

Another area of consideration is relationships.  Some individuals seem to have solid, healthy relationships, created easily.  Some just work at relationships, and others would rather avoid them as much as possible.  Which description fits your lifestyle and personality?  We can ask ourselves if we need better skills in this area by noticing the feedback that we receive or if we have a pretty good balance that fits who we are now.  Realize that we all change as we live our lives.  This is an important point, because if we are not more like the clouds in the sky that are constantly adjusting, bumping into things and using that to more in a new direction, we will surely find life very difficult.

We are not always exactly like we are right now; in fact, by reading this blog post you’re changing your thoughts, outlook, and disposition.  Working with feedback as it applies to relationships can be one of the most difficult aspects of life, and for many of us, families raise that difficulty so much that we require help and intervention at times.  How can you make an effort to notice feedback that you’re receiving?  It may be unspoken, the subtle things that you notice about how you interact with others?  What application may it have to make you better as a person?  We are all on a journey and working to be the best that we can and to help others.  By working to improve ourselves, we inspire others to do the same.  Enjoy the journey . . .