It’s in the People

Parenting our kids requires constant calibration doesn’t it?  I mean, it seems like we’re always adjusting, catching, cautioning, checking, reassuring, helping, pushing, the list is endless.  In the blog on 08/13/18 I wrote about Focusing on the Good Energy around you, rather than your surroundings.  We talked a bit about simply, “changing the channel.”  Today I want to further our thoughts on this.  Why is it that some people can keep themselves up and other have such a struggle.  Many of our kids are struggling just to keep themselves going.  It is a hard reality when we look at the suicide statistics along with other violence happening to our youth.

It is too easy to say, well they grew up in this situation, or her parents have money, or she didn’t live where I live, or have the situation that I have.  We know that there are many long, sad and difficult tales to tell, about who have done it in spite of their circumstances.  They are successful, happy and positive in spite of some crazy difficult situations. But how do they do that?  Here’s what I know:  The Difference is in the People, not the picture.  You see we so quickly jump to the picture, blaming our parents, or sibling, our addiction, our situation, or lot in life, when in reality, the difference is in the person.  You can see life as a bit of a marathon, or see it as an opportunity to experience your journey.

Whether we’re parents or kids, life requires this calibration of pushing ourselves to be that person that we know is there on the inside.  How great would it be, if you were to just push yourself to be your ideal, in spite of current circumstances that are difficult?  I mean, what if you were talking with someone, and they were exclaiming about how fun it was to be around you, like the lady on the phone to me, and then she discovered a circumstance that would seem to dictate otherwise.  It was then that displaying my personal best became even more of a surprise to her.

It is our choice.  Help your child to design that ideal person, attitude, clothing, car, job, family or not, what does it look it.  Encourage them to add more detail every day and to look for opportunities to be that person right now.  Right now in the way they act, in the way they talk, the people they choose to associate with–or not.  It’s in the people, not in the circumstances that the difference between “poor me” and “look at me” attitude lies.  Do it in spite of your circumstances, in spite of your situation.

I hope this is helpful to you.

Yours for better parenting,