Parenting & Tenacity
There is no doubt that at times, parenting takes tenacity. Tenacity is a resolve to be successful with your kids, a firmness to hold on to those standards of behavior of which you will not depart. It is a persistence to continue to push through difficult times of disagreement and yet maintains your connection and communication with your adolescent. It requires insistence at times, and a letting go at others. there is no doubt that when things get difficult, sometimes the best measure is to give it some space, but to say, “let’s revisit this when we are both more focused on solving the problem.” When you say that, you are letting the adolescent know that I recognize that we need space right now but we also need to resolve this.
That is the firmness, the persistence to which I refer. This steadfastness shows loyalty to the teenager, it tells them I am devoted to your success even when things get tough. They will recognize this eventually and by age 13 or sooner, a discussion about the role of this when conflicts arise will help them to further recognize it. It helps to create trustworthiness between you are a parent and them as someone trying to figure things out in the world. The stress surrounding this process certainly doesn’t diminish, but it does show a commitment.
So often I see parents just let it go, so they don’t have to deal with it. But that in effect hows a disloyalty and actually creates the opposite of what we wish to accomplish. Here’s what I know, When we take the time to do the right things during difficult times, we establish trust and faithfulness which will always serve a relationship.
Yours for better parenting,