Summary of Overcoming Deficits with Kids
In the past two posts, I have been discussing how to help disadvantaged kids overcome their deficits. In previous posts, I have discussed some situations that add to their lack of resilience. We have looked at things to do to help kids overcome those deficits. Here are a few additional observations for parents.
It is difficult for kids in disadvantaged situations to overcome their difficulties, but they can do it with support. Seek out support from others to help with the mission of getting them involved, and uplifted, in spite of the circumstances. This process doesn’t involve money or talking them out of their situation. What matters is the simple stuff, show them that you care and go at it from several adults in their life. Help them to find opportunities to be involved with others in ways that do not cost money. Talk with other adults that are in their life and tell them you need them to hear encouraging words and uplifting statements, particularly recognizing when they do something good. I am not advocating that we blindly tell them they are great when they are not, but to realize when they are good. To catch them being good.
Tell the young person that you believe in them, that they have something to offer the world and that current circumstances will pass. Kids have ng resiliency and can bounce back from some very awful conditions. I have seen it repeatedly with students that I have worked with as an educator for many years. I want to challenge families who come from positive situations to reach out to those who are struggling and extend a helpful and encouraging hand. To those families who are struggling, please take some time to consider this post as well as the previous two to help kids lead amazing lives. You will be surprised at how fast they can bounce back.
Yours for Better Parenting,