It is the transitions that are difficult in life. Or maybe I should say, It is the transitions that we don’t pay close enough attention to in life. Think about putting together a puzzle from the photo above. You have this one piece that has multiple colors on it and you cannot for the life of you, figure out where it goes. It almost seems like it is from another puzzle and not a part of this photo at all. Later you find just the perfect place for it and everything seems to come together.
If we were to really think about it, we’re always in transition. We move from one location to another, we drive, walk, or use public transportation to get ourselves to another place. But I am talking about another type of transition. I’m thinking about those times in your life when you’ve really moving into something different. For an adolescent it might be going into the next grade, going on the high school, or college. We don’t often think about the effect that changing times have on our lives. In a bigger sense we are living in changing times on the planet. There is more going on with world affairs than any other time in modern history. It can be stressful and cause us to lose our own focus or our way completely. It is easy to give up, to feel like it all doesn’t matter anyway. Adolescents feel that way often and need help clarifying how to think about moving forward in their own life.
As parents and adults, we need to help them to take control of the steering wheel in their life. To realize that we don’t always know how the pieces fit, but eventually they will and do indeed fit together. Consider a high school concert band playing in a concert and they are performing a composition that is made up of a medley (groups of various songs) on Broadway show tunes. Maybe it contains, Oklahoma, My Fair Lady and Fiddler on the Roof, three of my favorites. As the band plays the first song, Oklahoma you recognize it and enjoy the performance. When they start to move into My Fair Lady the melody seems to disappear, the rhythms often get more complex, and the melody seems to be disconnected, or no melody at all. This goes on for 8-12 measures and then they break into My Fair Lady. Those measures in-between Oklahoma and My Fair Lady is called a transition. Out of the entire composition, three Broadway songs, these 8-12 measure transitions can be the most difficult of the entire composition.
It is when things don’t really make sense. From the performers place, they may have had the melody and suddenly their part makes no sense at all. Some of the notes they are playing even sound like wrong notes, and the rhythms become more complex and don’t seem to represent anything that has come previously. How does this apply to us here on the planet? The things we do day-to-day, which may even seem mundane and unimportant add to our tool box from which we can draw our strength, our determination when we need it. Things like being on time, doing our homework everyday, doing our best, be friendly to others, being helpful may seem unimportant to some, until they need to find that strength in themselves and it isn’t there because they never bothered to build it up.
I will continue this thread on the next posting. . . please read one.