Dr. Rich Patterson


Understanding Kids and Truancy-3

  1. John Maxwell, an international leadership expert, says, “Anything worthwhile is uphill. Anything!” By helping kids learn to stick with things even when they may not like them particularly, find the value in something regardless of your opinion.  Have you ever had a job that you didn’t particularly like?  It can be a long career if you don’t find ways to make peace with it and still move forward.  By looking for the skills that are applicable beyond the event or position itself, you develop skills that will be available to you when you need them in other situations.
  2. If the child has bad habits that cause them to not be themselves, like drugs or alcohol, then address those concerns first. We cannot reason and work with kids to get them to see something better if they are not fully functional and in a healthy state.  Get with an addiction counseling program to deal with these challenges first to put things in a bit of a neutral state first.
  3. Remember that eventually, kids grow up to be adults, so in the meanwhile, we need to be our best as adults.  After they grow up, you will talk with them about childhood problems or if you are also having problems or setting a bad example.  Work on your addictions, show your child some of your self-discipline by learning a new language or playing an instrument.  Help them see that by making difficult choices during those short moments of indecision, we can lead ourselves to higher ground.
  4. Finishing school in a traditional public or private school is the best education for kids. Work hard to keep kids in these settings because they teach so many skills that will serve them lifelong.  However, if you feel you have tried and are losing ground, look at some of the alternative schools.  But remember, in many cases, not all, but in many cases, the programs they offer are less than the education they would get in a traditional school program.  That will come back to bite them later in life, often when they need skills that they didn’t learn in the first place.  A diploma isn’t just a diploma.

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    In case you missed it, here is the link to Part 1 of one of my favorite topics, Truancy; Understanding Kids and Truancy–Part 1 – Dr. Rich Patterson (pattersonphd.com)

    Here is the link to Part 2 of this series, Understanding Kids and Truancy-Part 2 – Dr. Rich Patterson (pattersonphd.com)

The Healthy Children website has an article on What Parents Need to Know Regarding Truancy, School Attendance, Truancy & Chronic Absenteeism: What Parents Need to Know – HealthyChildren.org

Yours for Better Parenting,