Connect With Kids – Part 4

We’ve been talking about ways to connect with kids and the importance of doing so as an adult.  Resiliency or resilience is the Teflon coating that helps kids to whether the ills of society, drugs, alcohol, sexual encounters, and depression.  When we purposefully go about the task of building resilience in kids, we add to their emotional bank account, as Stephen R. Covey refers to in his landmark book, The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People.  Stephen talks about how certain things that we do, such as having a conversation with kids, helps to build a relationship positively with others and then when we make a mistake, although it may be a withdrawal, there is still something left on the account because we have paid into it emotionally.

So it is with kids, our interactions, even as older adults, is essential.  Kids want to interact with older adults but are as hesitant as the adults are to interact with them.  Break the ice and be an asset builder with kids to starting a conversation with them.  Here are ten more questions to ask kids.

1) Have you ever walked in light rain and just enjoyed getting wet?

2) Do you know what I learned today?  I learned that sitting and looking at the moon is good for your soul and spirit.

3)  Do your friends work to do well in school?  Why or why not?

4) What did you do today that you loved?

5)  What did you learn today?

6) When did you last help someone?  What did you do?

7)  How do you feel when you help someone else?

8)  If you have 10-15 minutes before you go somewhere, what do you do besides look at your phone?

9)  Who is your favorite group, or what is your favorite song right now?  When you get home, look up the song and listen to it, listen to the words, and learn what they are learning.

10)  What most affects your attitude about school?  Positive or negative?

Numbers four and five are from my Mentor, John Maxwell and he asks his grandchildren both of those questions every day that he sees them.  I’ve started to ask them even of adults and have found that they enjoy them too.

Yours for Better Parenting,

Rich Patterson