Five Phases of Parenting
Being a parent is tough enough, but as a big-picture thinker, I thought it might be helpful to have a little framework surrounding the Five Phases of Parenting. A couple of points here before we get started. Although these five phases are sequential to some point, that is one develops upon the next, they are also all present during different times and situations. Let’s take a closer look.
Have you ever had a new position and the individual that is training you asks you if you have any questions? You stop and think and then might reply with, I don’t know what I don’t know. In other words, I don’t even know where to start to ask questions. So often during the phases of raising a child we feel like that. In fact, when a child moves into adolescence, it can feel like you’re starting all over again trying to figure things out.
As you begin to parent your kids during those years prior to age 5 you begin to at least know that you need to know. You are beginning to recognize some areas where you could use some clarification.
During this phase you begin to recognize what you don’t know. Now it is getting specific and the areas where you need help are clearly identified. You can begin to determine where you can go to get some help.
As you ask questions, you begin to know how to handle things and you see that it is working. You are making progress and feeling like your parenting is really quality and that you are making good choices.
In Phase Five you start to move and make decisions based on your experience, based on what you read, learned and what you know of your child.
We will discuss these five in greater detail during the next five sessions.
Yours for better parenting,