Parenting Phase One

In the last posting, I introduced the Five Phases of Parenting where I briefly spoke about the phases that we go through as a parent  In this article I will discuss Phase One.

Phase One says, that we simply don’t even know enough to know what questions to ask.  It is the very first stage when we start something new, like having a baby and you wonder and hope that you will have the wisdom to know what to do and when.  What I would like to offer here is that we recognize that this is the starting point for nearly everything.

I took a position as a college administrator after spending 35+ years as a teacher and school administrator.  My first thought was, how hard can this be, I am an educator and I am now a college administrator for an education program.  But whoa . . . the shock set in immediately when I was promptly overwhelmed.  I had a mentor who was helping me to learn a few systems.  He would show me how to use a software package or the process for doing something and then would ask me if I had any questions.

I immediately thought, I don’t even know what to ask, I don’t know what I don’t know.  It is an overwhelming feeling and you quickly realize that you are only going to get on top of this business of raising a child by doing it and making some mistakes, just like our parents did.

Simply by recognizing that we have a lot to learn is the first step to being a good parent.  The good news is that you can do it.  Everyone has the potential to be a good parent, but it isn’t accomplished overnight.

Here’s what I know:  This Phase One requires perseverance and you must follow the process of learning, trying and finding out what does and doesn’t work.

In the next posting, I will discuss Phase Two which says, I know that I need to know.

Yours for better parenting,

Rich