Dr. Rich Patterson

Parenting on Purpose: 7 Influences with Your Kids

Think about the times in your life when you really made a change.  Those times when things were calm and you had time to reflect on an event or series of events in your life that produced change.  How did that come about?  Who were the influencers?  Were they powerful, impressive, dynamic, or were they just effective in the way they said something?  Saying it in such a way that influenced you to do some further thinking?

The bottom line in raising our kids is to get them to think clearly, to be able to see what is coming and make good choices.  To have an understanding that rises above others around them.  John Maxwell, in his book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership talks about influence and I think we can apply it here to parenting.  He says the following, ”

The leaders that have influenced my life have been people that had the following (7) characteristics:

1)They cared about me and showed it.

2)They took time to listen to me, get to know me and to offer confirmations as well as guidance.

3)They were organized, they knew where we were going, what we were trying to do. They expressed it frequently, showed it in their conversations and body language.

4)They had firm and well-defined boundaries within which they operated in terms of character, belief, and trust/certainty.

5)They were fun to be around, always enjoyable, laughing and ready to offer a positive comment.

6)They had an energy about them. There was a spark in them that they showed daily, even when they likely didn’t feel like it inside.

7)They shared their vision for the present, just around the corner, further around the corner, and off-in-the-distance.

In future blogs, I will address each one of these and talk about how to implement them with kids from a position of influence, rather than discipline.

I hope that you will read this entire series and leave me a comment about your thoughts.

Yours for better parenting,

Rich