Recognize that Attitude Needs Daily Alignment
It is almost as if the human default is to the negative if left unattended. Having a good attitude needs daily alignment in order for it to benefit you and others. That may well be the motto that we can use, I will have a good attitude today to the benefit of myself and others. By getting in the habit of checking on your general disposition, you will begin to default to the positive when difficulties arise. I think that the ultimate test is during difficult times. How do you act when things aren’t going well? When people are disagreeing or arguing about something? That is when you take your motto to heart and arise to make the difference.
Look at the photo of the young women above! You can just see her great attitude shining through. I want to thank Vladislav Todorov on Unsplash for this photo because it expresses exactly what others see when we come into the room with a great attitude. I’m not saying that it is easy or that it is automatic. I know a woman who is truly always positive no matter what. Even in difficult situations that she may be a part of, she will pause for a moment, and then say something positive. I noticed this was her general mode of operation–truly a genuine part of her personality. I asked her about it one day and she replied that she was raised by her grandmother and that she had taught her to be that way.
What a great gift! We can give that to our kids as well and remind them that no matter what, other people, circumstances, wants/desires, none of it controls who you are inside and what you choose to display outside. You may be saying, OK Rich, but that’s easier said than done. Yes it is, and I have certainly fallen short. But, we can make a difference in our default attitude by practicing our more positive choices duiing those difficult times.
How do we do this exactly? We simply choose to think and respond differently. We may be unhappy about a situation, a response from a collegue, or a meeting that we were left out of, but we can still choose to be positive. While working with a couple of teenage boys one day in my office as an assistant principal, I reminded them of just that, we have a choice in how we respond. “But, he called me a . . . (fill in the blank)! So how else am I supposed to respond, I don’t allow anyone to speak to me like that.” I understand and that is a fine standard, but you still can choose to make your point without also getting anrgy. It takes practice and a personal effort to be responsible for our attitude.
Here’s what I know. When we work on having a good attitude others will begin to notice that there is something different about you. That you seem to have leadership qualities that are of benefit in many situations. That you will be the one chosen to be a leader over someone else who might even have more talent than yourself. Make the choice today to pull yourself up out of the darkness when you feel like staying there. Make yourself positive and you will suddenly discover that you feel better and forgot what you were ever down about in the first place.
Yours for a better life,