Dr. Rich Patterson

Transitions – III

It is how we perform when somebody is against us that counts.  How do we keep ourselves going despite what the situation dictates?  Some people get through the difficult transitions in their lives, and others struggle lies in the capacity that they have created for themselves.  Having the determination to keep going, taking control of the steering wheel when things seem out of control.  The tough times are when we need to take ownership.  You hear people say, “It’s a set-up” that’s why I wasn’t able to be successful with that relationship, at work, or with my kids.  The use of that language will set you up–for failure.

When things don’t make sense in life, that is a sign that you’re right on the edge of a breakthrough, a significant transition to where you will be successful.  But how do we keep going during those times?  Why are they present?  It comes from the little day-to-day things that don’t seem to add up to anything—efforts like being on time and giving your best effort every day. Particularly when you don’t feel like it, you show up for school when you would rather stay home—volunteering for extra duties for no credit.

I know a man that worked for a school for many years.  He was a solid employee.  He worked hard, was always on time for work, completed his tasks on time, gave extra, volunteered to be on committees, was innovative, prepared for meetings in advance, all of this.  He applied for several promotions but was never successful, always passed up for others in the school district.  One day his boss left the school where he worked, and a new administrator came to be the principal.

The days when it seemed his former boss was against him appeared to be done.  We all have times when somebody is against us.  The new principal noticed this employee and liked how he worked.  When it came to seeking advice or leading a new initiative, she asked him for help.

Why did this happen?  Because during those difficult times, he was in training to take on more challenging assignments, but it seemed that everyone was against him.  When those tough times came, he reached down into the capacity he had built in those difficult times and pulled out skills and abilities that others didn’t know he had.  Those tough times are the transitions in our life that count.  It is then that the bad times end up good.

You must have perseverance, be willing to find that one puzzle piece that doesn’t seem to fit anywhere.  By watching your thoughts, keeping a good attitude, you can take control of the steering wheel and transition to a higher level of performance.

People do notice; over time, people know who is not slacking when they could be.  Who is on time when no one is looking?  Who leads projects.  Who volunteers for assignments when they don’t have to.  All this adds to your capacity, which adds to your toolbox when in tough times.  Be a transition executive of your own life.

Transitions I and Transitions II from this series are linked here for you, Transitions – Dr. Rich Patterson (; Transitions – II – Dr. Rich Patterson (

Psychology Today has an article on 10 Ways to Make It Through Your Life’s Transitions, read it here, 10 Ways to Make It Through Your Life’s Transitions | Psychology Today