What Kids Need: Adults Talking to Them

I am amazed at the adults, many of whom raised kids, go to public places and act as if they are afraid to talk with kids, particularly teenagers.  Kids need adults who will speak with them and help them build their confidence.  In this series on What Kids Need, we are going to address that kids need Adults Talking to Them.

Take the opportunity to encourage your young person to call an adult friend and talk with them.  It is so beneficial for them in learning how to hold a conversation with someone that they know.  It helps them to build their self-confidence and boosts their self-esteem.  As the parent, you may want to set this up in advance a bit by asking the trusted adult if it would be okay if your young person called them once in a while.  I can’t imagine any adult saying no to that.  If your child has other interests such as athletics, music, dance, bicycling, hobbies, martial arts, then adults are likely involved and could easily be approached for a conversation.  It may seem a bit contrived at first, but once the initial awkwardness is breached, a discussion will likely follow.

As the parent, do not be upset when educators in their school building take time to talk with your child.  Kids are very relaxed around educators because they feel safe with them, and know them, or know of them.  It is healthy to take time to enjoy their company.  It is also good on the part of the school and as resources by parents to let know that there are people on the staff who are available to talk with kids.  Sometimes these are counselors, other times; it may be an administrative assistant or another faculty member.

When kids get the chance to talk with adults, they will build their conversational skills, increase their self-confidence, and learn that other adults are always interested in them.  Kids often feel that adults don’t appreciate them, or think they are weird.  When they get the chance to talk with adults, these myths are dispelled quickly. I hope that you will try having a conversation with kids at your first opportunity.  It may be at a restaurant, a place of worship, the mall, or another place of business.  You will make a difference in the lives of kids when you add value to them in this way.

Yours for Better Parenting,